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A single mom, by choice

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Kristen Riley is one happy mom. Her beautiful baby boy Brody is her pride and joy.

"I feel privileged to be his mother. I don't feel like being a mom is a right. It's a privilege and I feel extremely thankful for him," she said.

That's because Kristen's journey to motherhood wasn't easy.

"I envisioned it like everybody does. You would find this perfect guy and you would get married and you would have a family and unfortunately, it just didn't happen that way for me," Kristen said.

However, with no "Prince Charming" in the picture, Kristen turned to a sperm bank. She was in her mid-thirties with her biological clock ticking louder than ever, and her chances of getting pregnant slowly diminishing.

"That chance is about 20 percent per month and that's maximal between the ages of 20 to 25, and that only goes down from 25," said Dr. Mark Sanchez, a reproductive endocrinologist and infertility specialist, who sees a growing trend in women just like Kristen.

"Most of the women who come in are very educated about what they're going to do, what the process is like, how much it's going to cost and then on the back end knowing, I'm gonna need a nanny, I'm gonna need daycare, I'm gonna have my parents do this on this day," she said.

Kristen didn't have the extra hands. As you can see, she's handling parenting duties all on her own. It's a decision she thought out carefully, but nothing could've prepared her for the long, costly and heartbreaking journey to pregnancy.

"I had $13,000 sitting in my uterus, not knowing if it was gonna be a baby or not, and that's tough, it's a tough emotional rollercoaster," she said.

In vitro fertilization failed, time and time again. However, Kristen was dedicated and determined.

"This was a very serious decision, and I took it very seriously, and I was gonna do it until I got pregnant," she said.

She finally tried artificial insemination, got pregnant and struggled through a delicate pregnancy. She always feared a miscarriage, until the day Brody was finally born.

"When I see that little boy smile, I melt, I'm done. It just makes everything better," she says.

Kristen says she knows being a single parent isn't easy, but she says it's her biggest blessing.

"I don't feel like, ‘oh pity me, I'm a single mom.' I'm like, ‘go me. I'm a single mom,' " she says.

It's a decision she didn't take lightly, but she says it's the best decision of her life.

"If you are a professional woman and being a mom is something you just can't do without, I say go for it," Kristen said.

Kristen said she understands that mothers looking to do this may have a lot of questions, so she's starting out a blog about her journey. You can email her at daringgreatlymommies@yahoo.com

 

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